Over 30 years ago, I stood in the front row of a kindergarten performance. We were singing for all the parents at the elementary school. I wore a beautiful dress hand-made by my mother. My hair was long and styled in a curly Q, Shirley Temple sort of fashion. I felt like a princess.

During the performance, I sang “from my diaphragm” just as Mrs. Summers instructed. My heart felt as if it would pound out of my chest when the audience applauded our performance. Since I was in the front row, it was as though everyone were clapping just for me.

At the end of the performance, Mrs. Summers spoke words that would impact me for nearly a lifetime. She walked up to my mom and said, “she certainly is the most excited and eager student I had this year, but she couldn’t carry a tune in her pocket (hahaha)”. Most certainly she was just making a joke, but those words hurt me.

From that day on, I was insecure about my singing. It became a source of embarrassment and I didn’t want anyone to hear me. When I was home alone though, I would belt out songs as if I was on stage. It made my heart dance and my soul felt alive.

Years later when I began attending church regularly, I found a place of comfort where I could sing freely. One morning a woman asked why I didn’t join the choir. She said I had a beautiful singing voice and sang from my heart. I gave a little chuckle and told her  I KNEW I wasn’t choir material. With a look of surprise, she simply suggested I pray about it because I would be a nice addition to the choir.

That night I prayed and God began to show me how those words from my childhood found a home in my heart. He showed me that, even though the words didn’t play in my mind, the feeling from them came to surface each time I sang.

With the new revelation about why I had a hard time singing in front of others, I began to do some research. What did science say about singing? What did the bible say?

Professor Graham Welch from the University of London studied the health benefits of music and singing for over 30 years. His findings suggested that singing was good for the heart and lungs because it was an aerobic exercise. In addition, he said that singing reduced stress and increased our emotional well-being because it increases the “feel-good” hormones called endorphins.

When I went to my bible I found this scripture…..

Psalm 33:3 “Sing to Him a new song; skillfully (on the strings) with a loud and joyful sound”.

Science was saying that singing was good for me, and my bible was saying I should be singing loud and joyfully!! I cant even tell you how excited this made me feel!

I made a decision to stop believing the lie that had been rooted in my heart for so many years.  The following week, I joined the choir at church, singing talent or not, and I began to feel better. Slowly, I started singing in other places.

Now I sing in the streets, I sing in the gym, I sing while I lay outside tanning, and I sing while I drive. It doesn’t matter if I can carry a tune in my pocket or anywhere else, I carry it on my heart. Singing brings me so much joy. When I see someone else singing, I smile because I know I see a happy person.

What is the point of this story? Words (as innocent as they may be) can be spoken over us and they can hurt us, mold us, cause us to believe untruths about ourselves. We need to go to God’s word and believe what the bible says, not what our insecurities say.

Maybe you are insecure about something and you don’t know why. Maybe words were innocently spoken over you that hurt you. Maybe the enemy is just whispering words meant to steal your peace.

Go to God in prayer and ask Him to reveal truth to you.

Love yourself and give yourself permission to enjoy every part of you. Your heart and your spirit will thank you.



15 thoughts on “Just SING

  1. I don’t sing well, but I remember an older lady telling me when I was a teen and singing in the choir (she knew how I felt about my singing) “Make a joyful noise unto the Lord. As long as you’re singing joyfully, the Lord hears a sweet sound.” Thank you for linking up with Frog’s Lilypad’s Thankful Thursdays.


    • For sure Sarah!! I could never be on American Idol or The Voice, but God hears a different sound when we sing. I sing all the time and it doesn’t matter to me anymore what “people” think. It makes me happy and I know God enjoys it 🙂


  2. I am so glad you were able to turn what Satan meant as a stumbling into a stepping stone in your faith.
    This morning while listening to the book “Never Give Up” by Joyce Meyer, I learned the great opera Enrique Caruso’s parents were told he had absolutely NO talent!
    Do you like the way all the popular singers sound on the radio?
    In all honesty, I must say there are some voices that just are not MY cup of tea [ I even turn some off!]
    However, there are others that rave about their songs and have bought so many of their records that they’ve Gold records!
    Who knows – perhaps God has you destined for a Gold Record too!


    • Suzanne, thank you for your kind words. Joyce Meyer has been an instrumental part of my walk with Jesus. I have learned so much from her!! … As for you question, I don’t listen to the radio a lot. I tend to find something I like then listen to it over and over. I got a little chuckle from your encouragement on a Gold Record. I LOVE to sing, but in all honesty, I don’t carry a tune very well. But that’s ok right 🙂


  3. This totally hit home! I had the same experience, and I was often discouraged from singing at church too. It’s not that I was tone deaf, it’s that I was “out-shined” by solo vocalists who could perform better than me. It took a loving husband, a loving family, and a heart of worship to keep me singing. Now I can’t stop 🙂 And my church always welcomes me with open arms. But those words can cut so deep, people have no idea! Thankful that God’s truths set us free, indeed!


  4. Oh dear Rene I had no idea those words impacted you so negatively. I have always loved your singing. As I remember it, you sang beautifully, and after your class got done singing you loudly apologized to me saying if I couldn’t hear just you it was because the whole class had to sing. It was after the program Mrs summers said, Rene may not be my best singer but she is most certainly my most enthusiastic singer. I do believe if she knew today how badly she made you feel she would be devastated. I am so glad you found your voice. I remember going with you one night to your bible group and watching you singing. It made me cry to see the utter complete happiness on your face.


    • awwwww, don’t feel bad!! This is how the enemy works on us. He can take innocent words and turn them into words that hurt. That’s why it’s so important to keep the word of God close to our hearts. Mrs. Summers is my favorite of all teachers and I know she meant no harm. And yes, I LOVE to sing, it makes me happy in the deepest part of my being.


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